How to talk to girls smoothly, without being nervous? How to avoid common mistakes that a lot of men make? For a lot of boys talking to girls without fear seems an impossible mission.
Yes, of course – there are a tons of websites and dating gurus telling you how to behave, what to wear, how to start a conversation, how to flirt and how to talk to girls. What all of these sites and experts are first saying is: ‘Be cool!’or ‘Have a cool approach!’ and ‘Don’t be nervous!’ Thank you for that, very easy to say this. What they just don’t explain how to talk to a girl without being nervous when you are always nervous with girls, and how to behave cool when you feel yourself as a dumb bear when you are about to go into a conversation with a girl. This is something that cannot be just told simply to someone to ‘be cool!’ without any further directions.
So how to talk to girls then?
I will not give long list of advices like dating gurus, how to talk to girls and how to pick up a girl. It is because if you read out a whole book on this topic, your head will probably be full of the thousands of good advices and you definitely won’t remember anything. What is worse, you will mess up the tricks and things will go bad when ‘you are in action’.
I have just one and a very simple proposal how to talk to a girl: don’t take the conversation and whole situation serious at all. Yes, so far you can say that is not even better than the “be cool” saying. However I’ll explain how to do it and what is the benefit of this one simple advice. Important: this is only the first step and only for those guys don’t know how to talk to girls and who are nervous as hell in women company. For those, who cannot act natural at all when talking to a girl. And the explanation of the advice: try to talk to them like she was for example the post officer. Or the salesperson in the grocery store. Why? Because in this case you won’t stick your nervousness to the girl. She won’t feel that this is your thousandth desperate attempt to finally pick up a girl.
In this case she won’t feel on your words that this is your last chance to pick her up. This will make her safe and comfortable. Don’t try to make yourself very interesting at the expense of your life. If she doesn’t feel your fear and nervousness there can be a second and a third and several more occasions, even if you make some mistakes in the conversation. The trick is that the girls shouldn’t feel your frustration and desire that you want to pick her up here and now, and you are desperate for that.
That’s all. That’s all my only advice to nervous guys how to talk to girls: start talking to her as she was just a saleswoman in a store. This normal way of conversation will help a lot to you to calm down and lose your fears. Remember: this is just the first step to gradually lose your fear. After that you can use some of the advices that you find on internet about picking up girls.
Although I promised at the start that I will give you only one advice, I give you one more: pay compliments to the girl you are talking to. But don’t tell compliments which are clearly not true.
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